wolf white (Small)WHY SOME PEOPLE DON’T HEAL AND HOW THEY CAN: AN ASTROLOGICAL CASE STUDY. By Hilary Bond PhD. Copyright © All Rights Reserved.


Everyone in the world of therapy, whether mainstream or alternative therapy, welcomes honest clients who have a reasonable level of education, know themselves reasonably well and choose to evolve. We welcome clients who have no hidden agendas and really put all their willpower into getting well spiritually, physically, socially and mentally, with great creativity and love. But what if clients come to you as some sort of deceptive process to use or defraud you or some sort of strange game, which could be part of a mental illness?

In this essay clients who are a part of authoritative religions, cults, or enmeshed families are discussed. The people who insult you and blame a therapist for not “curing” them in one visit of course are also “red flag” people. This article investigates those who have given up on life because of wounded inner child issues after an abusive life, not just after childhood, but in adult years from mental, sexual and physical abuse. It is said by many specialists in social work and psychology that neglecting a child is far worse than abuse (Howe, D. 2005).
This commentary particularly review ideas about people with Sun or Moon aspecting Saturn, Neptune and /or Pluto; Cancer or 4th, 8th and 12th house placements and Mercury–Neptune placements, which for various reasons can make these people tribal in their behaviour and self-destructive.

Finally, this article considers the concept of Grace, where you “open your eyes, inner ears and your heart to a new way of looking at yourself and the world…,one where there is a natural abundance …that comes from the Divine Source”(Richardson, p.2) . Then finally, I discuss a case where a very hardened person, who decided they would never heal physically, and that had no heart and they would face the world alone, somehow allowed love and joy into their life and became a caring person. This person also had Sun or Moon effecting his Saturn and Neptune, Pluto and Cancer placements.


I remember when I did my Master’s Degree at university in counselling one of our first books to read, understand and remember was Geldard (1998) in his book Basic Personal Counselling: A training manual for counsellors). On page three he states, “Frequently a client will expect that the counsellor will give them direct advice…but human beings are remarkably resistance to advice. (Geldard, D. 1998). ” Geldard continues to advise all counsellors that we must encourage self-reliance, rather than dependence.

However, our professor emphasised that it was no use trying to counsel a person who came from a right-wing religion, especially as they answered all the criteria of a cult. They were brainwashed like robots to answer to either their cult leader or religious leader. They were unable to think or analyse for themselves. Besides they and probably generations and generations of their family or tribal (if they have Italian, Indigenous or Irish heritage) ancestors had made oaths and agreements to their leaders and or gods and these oaths were many.

In shamanic healing which I had used with astrological counselling if a client is still unconsciously aligned to the controlling gods or ancestors of the family who have left curses and traces of “evil” deeds, the client will not heal or progress. In other words the client is in these cases dependent and not self-reliant. Nor did our training suggest that they could be self-reliant. They live in a herd. Somehow the tribal oaths and old agreements must be broken so these people can think for themselves.


First I will examine the concept of cults. I taught a subject on the concept of cults and how to avoid them at an Australian high-school in 2007 in an effort by a particular city and the government to stop adolescents being brainwashed. I note here that one of my students included the Catholic Church and various pentacostalist churches as cults and I witnessed a pentacostalist pastor, at a church service, shouting loudly in 2003, in Australia, “There’s a witch in here” and sniffing the people just like the film “Witches” that starred Angelica Houston. I did not return as I realised that that church was a dangerous cult of strange ideas.

Many people with the aspect of Mercury-Neptune can be seduced into such tribal religions as Mercury-Neptune has a tendency to like religions and or spirituality and if the aspect is challenging they can be seduced by cults. Note that in the list of criteria lack of sleep by long prayer vigils is not mentioned. Lack of sleep is a well- known mind altering and brainwashing technique and the effects are akin to drug psychosis. (Coon, & Mitherer.) For people who have been in cults or the armed forces sexual or physical abuse of children or adults will mostly include brainwashing and a belief instilled that the child or adult is evil.

If a controlling father who is a member of a right wing church, an ex-armed forces person or a cult member abuses their child it will be with specific brainwashing techniques. (Holly, 2012 & Moscovici ) This brainwashing is often not deliberate by the abusers and is often attributed to primary Post-Traumatic Stress by men who have fought in wars. People with a combination of challenging Sun-Saturn and Mercury-Neptune placements are particularly susceptible to this. The second and third subjects I discuss were in dangerous relationships with abusive partners and had abusive fathers.
Bear in mind that this list is not meant to be a “cult scale” or a definitive checklist to determine if a specific group is a cult. I include the concept of cults here as cults are tribal religions. These criteria are not so much a diagnostic instrument as it is an analytical tool.

• ‪ The group displays excessively zealous and unquestioning commitment to its leader and (whether he is alive or dead) regards his belief system, ideology, and practices as the Truth, as law.
• Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged or even punished.
• ‪ Mind-altering practices (such as meditation, chanting, speaking in tongues, denunciation sessions, and debilitating work routines) are used in excess and serve to suppress doubts about the group and its leader(s).
• ‪ The leadership dictates, sometimes in great detail, how members should think, act, and feel (for example, members must get permission to date, change jobs, marry—or leaders prescribe what types of clothes to wear, where to live, whether or not to have children, how to discipline children, and so forth).
• ‪ The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, its leader(s) and members (for example, the leader is considered the Messiah, a special being, an avatar—or the group and/or the leader is on a special mission to save humanity).
• ‪ The group has a polarized us-versus-them mentality, which may cause conflict with the wider society.
• ‪ The leader is not accountable to any authorities (unlike, for example, teachers, military commanders or ministers, priests, monks, and rabbis of mainstream religious denominations).
• ‪ The group teaches or implies that its supposedly exalted ends justify whatever means it deems necessary. This may result in members’ participating in behaviours or activities they would have considered reprehensible or unethical before joining the group (for example, lying to family or friends, or collecting money for bogus charities).
• ‪ The leadership induces feelings of shame and/or guilt in order to influence and/or control members. Often, this is done through peer pressure and subtle forms of persuasion.
• ‪ Subservience to the leader or group requires members to cut ties with family and friends, and radically alter the personal goals and activities they had before joining the group.
• ‪ The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members.
• ‪ The group is preoccupied with making money.
• ‪ Members are expected to devote inordinate amounts of time to the group and group-related activities.
• ‪ Members are encouraged or required to live and/or socialize only with other group members.
• ‪ The most loyal members (the “true believers”) feel there can be no life outside the context of the group or tribe. They believe there is no other way to be, and often fear reprisals to themselves or others if they leave (or even consider leaving) the group.( Horowitz, M. 2011).

Now I analyse tribalism. What do I mean by tribalism? A tribe is a group and as I stated above a cult is generally a tribe with an established leader whose word is law. Tribes generally operate with fear as their controlling mechanism.
Tribalism has a very adaptive effect in human evolution. Humans are social animals, and ill-equipped to live on their own. Tribalism and ethnocentrism help to keep individuals committed to the group, even when personal relations may fray. This keeps individuals from wandering off or joining other groups. It also leads to bullying and having vendettas when a tribal member is unwilling to conform to the politics of the collective.

Sutherland in his book, “Irrationality: Why We Don’t Think Straight!” suggests that tribal people generally regard other groups as inferior (Sutherland, S. 1992. pp. 68-76 ). The prejudice against out-groups is usually accompanied by the formation of stereotypes. For example, people who stereotype unquestioningly see Jewish people as avaricious and dark skinned Indigenous people are seen as lazy or some other ridiculous stereotype. It is rare that these people study beyond school. If they did they would see the narrowness of their beliefs and their allegiance to cruel, rigid and nonsensical beliefs that start fights and wars.
Sutherland suggests that for tribal people holding stereotypes is convenient. It means they do not assess the individual case, and think for themselves, they merely assume the outsider conforms to the stereotype. He also realised that stereotyping tribal people tend to notice anything that supports their own opinions.

The Catch 22 of the stereotyping, xenophobic behaviour and thinking of a tribal person means that they as part of a group, family or tribe will never trust outsiders. A tribal person may bully outsiders, but if they are bullied by another group they will fail to understand why they are being bullied as they lack education and training in analysis and logic. They are so used to stereotyping.

I have been talking on a sociological-anthropological level. Remembering that we are discussing a case in context, let us go to a more individual level. I discuss here a client I saw for a six month period many years ago. This person had a Sun conjunct Saturn in Scorpio in the fifth house with a Cancer ascendant and Mercury (in Scorpio) conjunct Neptune. This woman had never had a relationship with a male other than the father and brothers and never left home. She still was, at a mature age living with her mother (Cancer Ascendant.) It struck me then as I had just completed my counselling degree that the client has lived a purely tribal and enmeshed life where was most likely that they were not capable of independent rational analysis about their own and other’s behaviour (Cancer Ascendant with a Virgo Moon, and Mercury as the ruler conjuncting Neptune) and were a dependent and tribal personality (Cancer Ascendant.) With the Saturn conjunct Sun they were drawn to authoritarian people and organisations and had an obsessive (Scorpio) relationship with their father (Sun conjunct Saturn) and in some way idealised him as her boyfriend (5th house.) The father had punished this woman as a child and as a practising Catholic she also saw God (the father) as a punishing God.

The presenting problem, for the client was severe traumatisation after being bullied by work peers. The client’s constant behaviour to the therapist was of evasiveness, and confused and changing stories (Mercury conjunct Neptune). This woman was also invasive, had no boundaries, was extremely rude, constantly insulting and possibly was an energy vampire. (Please see Lyn Koiner’s ideas on energy vampires in my next article. ) Although the counselling astrologer gave constant warnings about the client’s lack of boundaries the client kept up her childlike and disrespectful behaviour. Although the client had become less traumatised after shamanic healing she kept regressing to “dependent child” behaviour, as it was highly possible she was confessing to a church official and her enmeshed family.


Cathryn Taylor in her book on the Inner Child through its various stages maintains that the continuous “hostile, angry behaviour” and “yelling of obscenities p. P.159 ” of a person, suggests a wounded adolescent inner child where this internal shadow is still rebelling against authority (Saturn). Typically all adolescents have no limits, no boundaries. Previous psychiatric and psychological evaluation had suggested the client was “lying” in all her documentation and was hard to pin down. Previous astrologers had passed the client on as being invasive and “far too difficult to deal with.”

Another less evident behaviour had surfaced and this was the need for “revenge.” Again as Taylor suggest the angry, resentful, judgemental adolescent wounded inner child is typical of this stage. Of course as this is shadow (Zweig, C. & Abrams, J. Eds. 1991. & Jung, C.G. 1990 . The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious. ) behaviour and unconscious the person will deny this behaviour, but it shows up when the insults come flying and the client or person with the inner child stuck at adolescence can’t stick to their word or goals.


Could anything be done about this angry wounded inner child at teenager stage? Yes. If permission to do a shamanic soul recovery was gained I might have been able to do a soul recovery, but at the time I did not pick see the wounded inner child symptoms quickly enough. The client did reveal many symptoms of soul loss too. They were :
• inability to ground oneself;
• detachment and lack of ethics;
• memory loss;
• co-dependency and inability to release the past (Soul Recovery and Extraction. pp.3-5 ) .

Lack of grounding suggests someone who was “constantly daydreaming. Someone who runs around frantically is completely disorganised and has no self-discipline” and although the client had a Moon in Virgo which should have been earthy, totally grounded and organised, the client had all of the symptoms of lack of grounding.
At the lowest level of the Sun-Saturn Scorpio continuum a person will be controlling, manipulative and vengeful. And this person chose to win at all costs over “her enemy who had hurt her.” We can see that with Jupiter conjunct Pluto in Leo in her third house revenge was very, very important to her and she thought about it obsessively. When I had investigated her ancestry Irish “vendettas and curses” were alive and well in her unconscious and as she had a Cancer ascendant and her Sun’s ruler in the 4th house her ancestry was important.


Another interesting factor was Eris as handle of her bucket chart and the only planet in the top of her chart. All her planets sat from the 2nd to 6th house. Eris loves to stir up trouble and can make a mountain out of a molehill. In my experience (and having had completed a PhD in tribal behaviour) anybody’s need for revenge in taking “enemies” to court to destroy them is fraught with peril. The client is sure to lose all their money in court costs, and lawyer’s fees and the person who is traumatised will not regain their peace of mind and nervous balance because they keep re-traumatising themselves because of their obsessive need for revenge.


The Virgo Moon also meant that she worried, was anxious constantly and was an obsessive thinker (Pluto-Jupiter in the third). Her mental processes were also confused and illusory (Mercury in Scorpio conjunct Neptune), thus the anxiety was not surprising. There was great self-sabotage here. And the client kept harassing her counsellor in her invasive, anxious way by sending up to five emails a day full of details of her worries and conversations with various family members. Basically the emails were full of gossip and tittle-tattle.

Psychologically, my final assessment would be to say that this client would keep returning, in their dependent fashion to their authoritarian church group and enmeshed family. Thus this is a client who chooses subconsciously not to heal and blames everyone around her: family, therapists and legal representation.

Spiritually, I am saddened by a client who chooses to stay at such a low vibration considering they have a choice. If a client at no time chooses to accept that it is time to give up their vendetta and see it as some sort of lesson, whether a personal or inherited lesson, makes me wonder. If one meets an immovable obstacle and is told by a plethora of professional therapists and legal specialists that they are lying and must face the fact that they need to move on, they need to get the giant hint and move on: forget the blaming, forget the idea of stereotyping and forget the past.


At the highest spiritual vibration of this Sun-Saturn-Pluto archetype there are some magnificent psychiatrists, psychologist, oncological nurses and doctors, therapists and psychopomps. And they have worked hard to be in their positions. If one has Sun in the fifth house the lesson is about our heart. The client may at a lower vibrational level whine and blame because “no one loves me and people don’t know me or understand me” and a gullible therapist might work on inner child issues and self-esteem issues, but the alternative is to step back, raise a white flag and allow the client just to stop the vendetta, have a long rest from trauma, learn to relax and open up ones heart and allow love in. (Well that is the theory and it probably won’t happen if their family has been engaged in vendettas for hundreds of years.) If a person is in a constant state of obsessive racing vengeful thoughts how the divine forces, who need stillness (and the Theta brain wave) possibly reach this person other than a miracle (Grace.)

The lesson for the therapist is to stop trying, because the therapist is not responsible for this person, especially if they constantly cry poor and will not even give a small donation for not just hours, but months of voluntary work. The lesson is to step back and allow God and the archangels to do their work. Cheryl Richardson in her book “The Unmistakable touch of Grace” (2005) tells her readers that “Grace is a kind of spiritual intelligence, a form of energy that comes from the Divine Source.


I probably have only stepped back twice in my life and around the same time I saw the previous Sun conjunction Saturn woman around the year 2000, another Sun conjunction Saturn woman appeared. This conjunction was in Gemini in the 9th house and opposed Neptune, so rather than a case of blaming others this client blamed God. Saturn –Sun medically can cause medical problems with the spine (Sun) and bones (Saturn) after a car accident. This was the central problem from which there was no relief and the client had virtually given up. This person was in a far more traumatised state than the first person I describe.

She had been abused as a child by her parents (Moon square ascendant conjunct Pluto and Sun conjunct Saturn opposition Neptune and Sun square Mars in Pisces.) Astrologically the combination suggested very strong karmic circumstances, great depression from the actions of a violent and perhaps substance abusing and neglectful father and a mother who I suspect looked the other way at sexual abuse. This woman had become depressed, suicidal and invisible (Pluto conjunct Ascendant.) The very early (birth to 18 months abuse and neglect) had caused a total lack of trust and hope in the world.

This woman asked me to do soul retrieval, but as I do not work with suicidal clients I passed her onto someone I believed was the best shamanic practitioner in Australia. He was expensive, but if anyone could save her he would. I never heard from either of these women again, but somehow I feel that they both pulled through. I prayed for both of them and continue to do so.


But you didn’t ask me about a wounded inner child at age birth to 18 months. I will tell you anyway. This wounded inner child expects no nurturing, no safety and so trusts no one and expects the world to be an unsafe place. The adult in which this wounded inner baby lives is either overly dependent or holds others at a distance because she or he expect rejection, abandonment, or and abuse. The baby and adult feel unworthy of love and generally unworthy and full of shame and often repulsiveness. There is a great deal of panic and a fear of asking one’s needs to be met. This person often rejects their own body and is probably extremely vulnerable to being suicidal.

Hence we expect to see strong Saturn-Sun here or Sun in Capricorn with a challenging Neptune. So we may expect Sun Saturn opposite or square or inconjunct Neptune or even Sun in Capricorn in the 12th house. Pluto in a prominent place; either MC or ascendant gives the feeling of being a recluse. A life where drugs play a place also ties in with this prominent Pluto archetype. These people can be depressive and have a large shadow (we can not only see the shadow here, but we see much that is hidden to the consciousness and archetypes that come from the collective unconscious and the person with strong Pluto inherits: dark secrets) , but from experience I know that after a few shamanic healings and soul retrievals they learn to communicate properly and they , with a plethora of experience and compassion, become great counsellors. Pluto always has a treasure if you dig deep enough.

The third person I analyse has Moon in Cancer in the second house opposite Saturn in Capricorn in the 8th; Sun in Aquarius conjunct Chiron and conjunct Mercury in Pisces. We see that his Sun is ruled by Saturn and his Moon opposes Capricorn. His Saturn in the 8th house is akin to Saturn in Scorpio. So there are similar archetypes to the first person in the article, but he has a different soul, a non- tribal soul and a different life and country context. His Sun-Chiron-Mercury stellium in his ninth house is opposite Pluto in the third. His saving grace is Venus in Pisces in the 10th widely conjunct the MC and Jupiter in the sixth conjunct DESC and opposite Mars conjunct ASC.

Years ago when I first met this man he was recovering from a broken back and broken collar bones. The doctors said he would never walk again. He was dying from hepatitis given to him by an ex-wife who had affairs and he was crippled by arthritis. He had been physically and verbally abused, starved and neglected by his parents and grew up in a large cardboard box. The first time this man’s back was broken was at age eight when he was forced to help his father building a house. The father was an ex- professional soldier and physically and verbally abused his mother too. This client, whom I will name Horatio, refused to be wheelchair bound and learned to walk again. Horatio left home at age sixteen and worked in various occupations but ended up with qualifications in engineering, mechanics, welding and all the Mars areas that included expertise in building trucks, planes, trains and cars. He only ever associated with two women and the second treated him as a sex slave. (See Sandra L. Brown Women (Date Unknown.) Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists Perfect Paperback. ) She was in the Mafia and although she earned a great amount of money Horatio supported her financially. When I first met him as a client twelve years ago he had escaped from her and her associates.

We can see his Moon opposition Saturn in the 8th house in his upbringing and in his steely determination to overcome all odds. He trusted no one and was a loner living in caravan parks with a dingo when I first encountered him in 2002. When he did speak, which was rare, his words were scathing, rude, sarcastic and tinged with toilet and sexual words and he did live on the edges of fringe criminality. This characteristic and his silent behaviour, plus sexual abuse would be an affect from Chiron conjunct Sun conjunct Mercury opposite Pluto square Mars.


His Moon opposition Saturn in the 8th indicated ancestors who were beaten down, bitter and angry and there were generations and generations of them to heal, but Horatio endured. Erin Sullivan in her book on The Astrology of Family Dynamics suggests that Saturn in the 8th house people are afraid of death and the dark(p. 193) , but this man faces death regularly in the dangerous world he works in and does shift work so he is wake all night and he mostly works in the dark. He has an uncanny ability to see in the dark. Erin Sullivan also sees people with this Saturn as skeptics and he certainly was and came from a family of skeptics and atheists, but now he is a man of faith and compassion. Erin Sullivan also suggests 8th house people are highly ritualistic.

His Pisces planets meant he only went to natural therapists. Gradually I recommended shamanic practitioner friends and then began to work with him myself. Horatio’s past life regression healings were full of battles where he had been killed in and battles he had been maimed in. I would say he has had at least forty shamanic healings. He never gives up. But this man is a success story now. He is well, and strong, honest and more kind in his speech, but still eats sparingly. He is an example of the best side of the 8th house Saturn. She suggests that Saturn in the 8th house people must “Undergo a complete dissolution of the boundary between the ego and the Deep transcendent self before [he] is allowed to take on the power which lies in the realm of the ancestors.”

When we finally reached that stage we found that Horatio had been a druid in in past lives and his ancestors a long way back had been shamanic practitioners and wise Elders. He is now a happy man with human friends. He chats happily with people and although he still works in engineering fields he teaches exercises to men, does shamanic healing occasionally and grows herbs. Needless to say he does not go near toxic people.


I can hardly say, I hope you have enjoyed this article. I don’t see people rushing out and jumping for joy and I hope you are not too depressed after reading this article. However, I hope it has added to your knowledge and opened some windows on the reasons some people behave the way they do. I guess, while this is not a gleeful article it does bring hope and compassion for those who are stuck in their unconscious Saturnian-Plutonian gloom.

But my humble suggestion is that if you expect to heal in one healing I believe you are being a trifle optimistic. In all ancient and Indigenous worlds wisdom was learned over decades and whilst we live in this youth oriented consumerist society undoubtedly you will learn that wisdom does not come from machines (electronic technology) and mechanistic people alone.

But here I change my tune and do hope your day, this year and your life will be full of joy.

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3. Geldard, D. (1998). What is counselling? In D. Geldard. Basic personal counselling. A training manual for counsellors. (pp.1-15). Sydney: Prentice Hall.
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6. Claudia Moscovici ( Date Unknown). Dangerous Liaisons How to Recognize and Escape from Psychopathic Seduction. http://www.fishpond.com.au/Books/Dangerous-Liaisons-Claudia-Moscovici/9780761855699 . Women Who love Psychopaths. A Book Review. http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/women-who-love-psychopaths-book-center
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Although I primarily am discussing the role of Aura Soma colour healing as a therapy for grief and shock in this article, I suggest that a good therapist is eclectic or has a modality of therapies in which to work with a client. Neptunian therapists may work with energy healing or shamanic healing and Neptunian therapists with some earth placements in their charts may work with crystals. Plutonian/ Scorpionic and 8th house therapists may do psychopomp work (helping people who have died and are stuck in the lower astral to pass on to “heaven”) or work with oncology (cancer) and people who are dying. Those who have predominantly air/Uranian charts work with psychotherapy and counselling. Sand play and art therapist work with Venusian and earth energies. Trauma counsellors work with Uranian-Mercurial energies. Masseurs work with lunar and earth and fire energy. Neptunian counsellors and therapist work with addictions. The list goes on.

In the last few days I have been working with and speaking to a client who was in deep shock. The transiting planet Uranus had systematically conjuncted or sat on her Ascendant (her soul path), then opposed her natal Pluto (deep unconscious processes), then opposed her Moon (her safety and sense of security and belonging) and now was opposing her Uranus. In other words she was facing a prolonged mid-life crisis of extreme grief and resultant shock. At the same time transiting Pluto, the remorseless transformer of our life and bringing of death in its many forms (spiritual, physical, mental, in career, partnerships etc.) had squared this persons Ascendant, and then squared her Pluto, Moon and now her Uranus.

Those of us who are not only experiences counsellors, but also have been through extreme trauma ourselves, know that the shock generally renders us reeling, useless, helpless and totally overwhelmed. No, we are not all the same. For some the grief and shock is supressed and those people behave in a totally numb fashion. For many the unfairness or injustice of certain traumas also add fury, anger and endless analysis to grief and shock. Whether the shock and grief was or is a physical threat or threats to our life (such as stalking or constant threats or bullying in your workplace); a death or deaths of our closest loved ones; a siege; accidents or being in constant frightening circumstances, if we are a therapist we understand the overwhelming bodily symptoms and extreme emotions we go through. But when a person is in the middle of grief and trauma and has no understanding or background knowledge of the symptoms and relief for shock what happens? What can they do?

Let’s have a look so you have a bit more knowledge of how to cope if you go through trauma or a loved one does.


Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless and vulnerable in a dangerous world. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and alone can be traumatic, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective facts that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized.

An event will most likely lead to spiritual, emotional or psychological trauma if:
• It happened unexpectedly.
• You were unprepared for it.
• You felt powerless to prevent it.
• It happened repeatedly.
• Someone was intentionally cruel
• Someone deliberately used ritualised ill intent.
• It happened in childhood.
Emotional and psychological trauma can be caused by single-blow, one-time events, such as a horrible accident, death of a loved one, a natural disaster, or a violent attack. Trauma can also stem from ongoing, relentless stress, such as living in a crime-ridden neighbourhood, living with very, very abusive neighbours, a severely critical partner or special needs children or struggling with cancer.

Commonly overlooked causes of emotional and psychological trauma are :
• Falls or sports injuries
• Surgery (especially in the first 3 years of life)
• The sudden death of someone close
• A car accident
• The breakup of a significant relationship
• A humiliating or deeply disappointing experience
• The discovery of a life-threatening illness or disabling condition
• Fear from a psychic threat

Childhood trauma increases the risk of future trauma.
Experiencing trauma in childhood can have a severe and long-lasting effect. Children who have been traumatized see the world as a frightening and dangerous place. When childhood trauma is not resolved, this fundamental sense of fear and helplessness carries over into adulthood, setting the stage for further trauma. However, if one has had significant counselling and shamanic soul recoveries this will significantly lesson childhood trauma and increase positive (brain) neuroplasticity where we become more resilient.

Childhood trauma results from anything that disrupts a child’s sense of safety and security, including:
• An unstable or unsafe environment
• Separation from a parent
• Serious illness
• Intrusive medical procedures
• Sexual, physical, or verbal abuse
• Domestic violence
• Neglect
• Bullying

Symptoms of emotional and psychological trauma
Following a traumatic event, or repeated trauma, people react in different ways, experiencing a wide range of physical and emotional reactions. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to think, feel, or respond to trauma, so don’t judge your own reactions or those of other people. Your responses are NORMAL reactions to ABNORMAL events.

Emotional and psychological symptoms of trauma:
• Shock, denial, or disbelief
• Anger, irritability, mood swings
• Guilt, shame, self-blame
• Feeling sad or hopeless
• Confusion, difficulty concentrating
• Anxiety and fear
• Withdrawing from others
• Feeling disconnected or numb

Physical symptoms of trauma:
• Insomnia or nightmares
• Being startled easily
• Racing heartbeat (a potassium deficiency)
• Aches and pains
• Fatigue
• Difficulty concentrating
• Edginess and agitation
• Muscle tension (potassium and magnesium deficiency)

These symptoms and feelings typically last from a few days to a few months, gradually fading as you process the trauma. But even when you’re feeling better, you may be troubled from time to time by painful memories or emotions;especially in response to triggers such as an anniversary of the event or an image, sound, or situation that reminds you of the traumatic experience.

Grieving is normal following trauma
Whether or not a traumatic event involves death, survivors must cope with the loss, at least temporarily, of their sense of safety and security. The natural reaction to this loss is grief. Like people who have lost a loved one, trauma survivors go through a grieving process. This process, while inherently painful, is easier if you turn to others for support, take care of yourself, and talk about how you feel.

When to seek professional help for emotional or psychological trauma
Recovering from a traumatic event takes time, and everyone heals at his or her own pace. But if months have passed and your symptoms aren’t letting up, you may need professional help from a trauma expert.
Seek help for emotional or psychological trauma if you’re:
• Having trouble functioning at home or work
• Suffering from severe fear, anxiety, or depression
• Unable to form close, satisfying relationships
• Experiencing terrifying memories, nightmares, or flashbacks
• Avoiding more and more things that remind you of the trauma
• Emotionally numb and disconnected from others
• Using alcohol or drugs to feel better

Of course as a counsellor I would suggest taking one day at a time, but after a few months of the initial incident the person should be encouraged to set long term and short term goals to resume one’s balance and harmony. In the early stages one would need daily or at least weekly massage, a good friend or family member with them daily, lots of reassurance and someone to listen to, a daily Epsom salts bath and a weekly visit to a good grief counsellor. It is important to be sociable and go out regularly because agoraphobia is a possibility in cases of trauma. I would also suggest an initial visit to a naturopath –homeopath because grief and shock can instantly deplete potassium reserves (the Moon is safety and potassium) and hence magnesium (the Sun), and B6. Star of Bethlehem is the Bach Flower (Uranus) remedy for shock. Aconite or Aconitum Napellus is the homeopathic remedy (Uranus, 12th house, Mars) remedy for shock. Mars because grief and shock render one weak and without energy. Ignatia Amara for Moon-Uranus- Mercury situations is for grief. Moon because of hypersensitivity, Uranus because of nerves and astral collapse and Mercury because one cannot think straight when shocked or in grief. The Australian Bush Flower constitutional remedies (Pluto) for grief are Waratah and Sturt Desert Pea.

However, I will discuss flower remedies and shamanic therapy for shock and grief in my next articles. I am not a homeopath, but have certification in flower remedies, plus 30 years of experience in and a university Master’s Degree in counselling and I have advanced certification as a practitioner in Aura Soma. I have advanced certification in Doreen Virtue Angel Intuitive healing, Theta Healing, Germanic/Viking Shamanic Healing, Core Shamanic healing, Four Winds Shamanic Soul Retrieval, Spirit Well Being Dreamtime Shamanic Healing, Intuitive Energy Healing and Chironic healing.

The AURA-SOMA® Orange Pomander is a URANUS remedy.

It is a
•Shock Absorber of the Past and Present: helps us to deal with spiritual shocks and fears. The orange pomander balances the aura when we feel “beside ourselves” which means either our aura is leaking or is totally ungrounded. This pomander protects against all shock, and helps to close the etheric gap after shock.
•CAN BE USED BEFORE PAST LIFE REGRESSIONS OR HEALINGS: It is through the etheric body to which the orange relates that past and future experiences may be accessed. Using the Orange Pomander allows the informational content of past experience to be accessed, without bringing the emotionally cathartic aspects into the present. This opens the door to insight. The orange pomander helps to clear the memory of deep shocks. Thus it is useful for past life therapy and is said to protect the therapist and client in this process.
•A regulator for temperature. Thus it is good for menopausal hot flushes; and helps regulate hormonal balance.
•A help for the Gut. The orange pomander helps letting go in this area and helps overcome deep fears, and is soothing and calming. The orange pomander helps let go and accept all that is going on around us. The orange pomander is a safety net on the journey into the depths of our Being.
•For dependency and co-dependency- aids releasing these, and addictions.
•For optimism and sense of humour.
•THE ORANGE POMANDER IS FOR liquid engineering. The orange pomander supports the devas that maintain mechanical devices and Archangel Metatron.
The ORANGE POMANDER IS FOR THE Physical Level: Circulatory, Lymphatic & Uro-Genital Systems, kidneys, bladder, (bedwetting), and our skin

THE MAJOR CHAKRA FOR THE ORANGE POMANDER IS the Splenic , Sacral or Hara Chakra and it has a soothing and calming effect on this area.

Chakra base (Small)

Fragrance: Fruity, spicy, fresh
Predominate Plants: Cinnamon, Mandarin

THE PREDOMANINANT CRYSTALS USED IN THE ORANGE POMANDER ARE the Orange Calcite, Sunstone, Amber, Orange Topaz, Jasper, Carnelian, and Tiger Eye

The APPLICATION: Use daily to cleanse, strengthen and support the aura.
Place three drops on the left palm, and gently rub the hands together. Give the energies of colour, herbs and crystal out to the world, flowing from the left hand around the Earth and back into the right hand. Then bring the hands gently over the crown chakra, passing the energies over the top of the head, then over the back of the head, through the occipital area where the psychic gate is said to be, cleansing that which is behind us. Bring the hands down over the brow, through the area of third eye, down to the throat. Moving the hands over the throat briefly, clearing the communications before gently coming to the heart where we rest for a moment. In this space you may perhaps wish to put your attention on people you hold precious or on a situation that you feel needs care. In your own time, when you are ready, bring the hands down moving the energies through the Solar Plexus, through the Root Chakra at the base of the spine, and down to Mother Earth. Ask that the Earth may receive what it is that we have to offer. Then moving back up the front, bring the palms together in a gesture of completion and take three deep breaths of the Pomander’s aroma-receive its essence into your own temple, your body.
NOTE: Do not pass the Pomander through the electro-magnetic field (for instance, around a mobile phone, near the electrical circuits of your car or near a microwave oven or computer) before inhaling as this allows the alcohol to evaporate before you breathe in. Do not apply to broken, irritated or sensitive skin. Do not use on polished or painted surfaces. You can share the pomanders with whomever you wish, unlike the Aura Soma Balance bottles.

The Aura-Soma therapy is a natural healing method that uses of the vibrational powers of colour, crystals, and natural scents combined with light in order to balance and harmonize body, mind, and spirit. Aura-Soma and the Equilibrium bottles were created by Vicky Wall, a herbalist who had dedicated her life to spiritual research and the treatment of illnesses with plants.
Vicky Wall inherited her father’s ”second sight” in that she could see the aura that surrounds all human beings. Vicky’s father was of the Hassidim Hebraic group and a scholar of the mystical aspects of the Bible. He was a Master of Kabbalah and Zohar, traditions from which he inherited knowledge of the medicinal and therapeutic uses of herbs and other plants.
In the early 1980s, Vicky became completely blind. After this, she began to ”feel” a voice inside her, inviting her to create these magical bottles, which divide the watery from the oily essence of various plants. Vicky stated that ”antique memories” came back into life as the colours of the bottles took shape in her mind.

Aura Soma therapy is totally connected to the concept of colour, which has therapeutic uses going back to ancient times. Every colour is a wavelength of light whose specific energetic quality can influence the whole range of human emotions through the chakras. Today, we all recognize that the chakras, which are spirals of energy that rotate in our etheric body, are in essence made of a number of colours, but that one colour dominates in each chakra.

Aura-Soma means “etheric body-physical body.” The etheric body, or aura, is an electromagnetic field that clairvoyants see as colored rays emanating from the spine.
As we know, colours are simply wavelengths of light. But we also know that we are actually made of light ourselves. As such, our own true vibration is mirrored in various frequencies of colour. When we choose colours from among the Equilibrium bottles, we do so because those particular colours ”speak” to us, and we are seeking to understand what it is they want to tell us.
By using the bringing colours we have chosen from the Equilibrium bottles into our etheric body, we balance the aura and to the even-more-refined bodies that make up the totality of our Light-bodies. So the Equilibrium colours are simply bringing us into the light of our own ”true colours.”
In holistic healing, imbalances in our physical and mental body are caused by the way we respond to emotions, with thoughts, decisions, and agreements with other beings and oaths that have altered our deepest essence or Soul and Spirit. When we use colours through the Equilibrium bottles, we synchronize their wavelengths to the ones of the body’s electromagnetic field, harmonizing these imbalances.
The client who seeks healing who chooses their own coloured bottles or pomanders. When we can stop the chattering of the conscious mind and go into the inner silence of the alpha brain wave, this inner healer, our Higher Self, knows the right thing for us, and chooses what we need.

Red: Energy, grounding, survival issues and the material side of life.
Coral: Unrequited love.
Orange: Independence/dependency. Shock. Trauma. Deep insight and bliss.
Gold: Wisdom and intense fear
Yellow: Acquired knowledge
Olive: Creating a space for clarity and wisdom.
Green: Space. Search for truth. Panoramic consciousness.Chakra base (Small)
Turquoise: Mass media/group communication. Creative communication (art).
Blue: Peace and communication.
Royal blue: Knowing why one is here.
Violet: Spirituality. Healing. Serving others.
Magenta: Love for the little things in daily life.
Pink: Unconditional love. Caring.
Clear (white): Suffering and the understanding of suffering.

My thesis and summary from this article is that Aura Soma colour therapy can be used as a good supporting therapy for those people with strong Libra or Venus as well as Pisces and or Neptune in conjunction with a watery or Lunar chart, as Aura Soma pomanders and bottles use a mixture of spiritually derived natural scents, crystals, herbs, plants, colours, oils and water to give relief to a person (client.) One can use this therapy in conjunction with massage, yoga, tai chi or chi gong, counselling, flower remedies or homeopathic remedies, sleep, loved one’s support, nutrition, knowledge of the effects of grief and shock and astrological counselling.
I do hope this has helped in some small way as the area of grief and shock therapies is large.
My very best wishes to you and may your life be a gentle ribbon of moonlight and happy days full of good fortune.
Hilary .